{"id":3696,"date":"2018-06-15T09:00:04","date_gmt":"2018-06-15T09:00:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/wp.lancs.ac.uk\/translatingpain\/?p=3696"},"modified":"2018-06-15T09:00:04","modified_gmt":"2018-06-15T09:00:04","slug":"the-pain-of-acceptance-by-ian-conrad-cross","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wp.lancs.ac.uk\/a-bel-abroad\/the-pain-of-acceptance-by-ian-conrad-cross\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8216;The Pain Of Acceptance&#8217;, by Ian Conrad Cross"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">Please do not judge me,it wasn\u2019t my choice<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">This illness descended, that\u2019s what hurts the most<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">I have worked all my life, brought up three healthy boys<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">It has never been easy, what with clothing and toys<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">I can cope with fatigue, as most mothers can<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">But i took on too much, then the trouble began<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">My children have grown now and all flown the nest<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">But if mum is required, I forgo my rest<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">Three days in work is all I can manage<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">The pain is too much, my brain left in carnage<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">My &#8220;ME&#8221; is recognised, the authorities are aware<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">But the pain from Fibro Myalgia, they don\u2019t seem to care<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">I am dependant on others which goes against the grain<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">But I&#8217;ll continue to struggle, there&#8217;s my dignity to maintain<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">I&#8217;m not after your pity, I don\u2019t want a fuss<\/span><br \/>\n<span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">Please be patient, I&#8217;ll get there, but I can no longer rush.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/wp.lancs.ac.uk\/a-bel-abroad\/files\/2018\/05\/001.jpg?resize=1536%2C2048\" alt=\"A photograph of a fireplace with a mirror hanging over it, and a small clock and ornaments on display.\" width=\"1536\" height=\"2048\" \/><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\"><em>by Ian Conrad Cross<\/em><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;font-family: georgia, palatino\">UK<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Please do not judge me,it wasn\u2019t my choice This illness descended, that\u2019s what hurts the most I have worked all my life, brought up three healthy boys It has never been easy, what with clothing and toys I can cope with fatigue, as most mothers can But i took on too much, then the trouble&hellip; 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