“What else can you say to someone with anxiety?”

Anxiety is what we feel when we are worried, tense or afraid, and is a natural human response when we perceive that we are under threat. However, anxiety can become a mental health problem if it impacts on your ability to live your day-to-day life.

One person got in touch with us anonymously to share her experience of her partner’s anxiety.

“I still have the habit of checking my phone, without even thinking about it due to the past few months of constantly texting my boyfriend ‘it’s going to be okay.’ Because what else can you say to someone with anxiety?

My partner suffers with anxiety due to his best friend passing away unexpectedly, and from workplace bullying in the same year.

He was turning into someone I didn’t recognise, losing weight and never sleeping properly. I cannot begin to describe how helpless you feel when all you can say is ‘don’t worry’ and put the kettle on.

After months of hard work, prescriptions and counselling, we have finally managed to get him in a place where he can deal with issues more confidently, is slowly putting on the weight he lost and is getting regular sleep, even dreaming. However there is still a long road ahead of us to keep his thoughts from clouding his mind.”

Click here to access Mind’s website about anxiety and panic attacks, including how to help yourself and others.

For confidential support with mental health or suicidal feelings, call Samaritans on 116 123.

If you are experiencing problems that are affecting your studies or general wellbeing, get in touch with the University’s Counselling and Mental Health and Wellbeing services.